One of the most freeing, amazing and life-changing books I’ve read to date is Authentic Relationships: Discover the Art of One Anothering by Wayne & Clay Jacobsen. In this book Wayne & Clay take you on a journey that shows you how to be authentic in relationships, how to cultivate intimacy and how to one another. Yes, that’s a different term, I know. One Anothering. But I love it.
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35
See the scripture up there? John 13:34-35? Yeah. That one. Notice what Jesus says to His disciples while He’s serving them the Last Supper, washing their feet and encouraging them on His last night with them. He didn’t tell them to just go out and save the masses, grab as many converts as you can or even start the biggest church possible. Sure, there was the directive to make disciples. And yes, He has a church. But in this particular passage (and several others, by the way) He simply tells them to one another.
What does that look like?
I believe it is pretty simple to understand in this context. We make a difference by affecting one life at a time. We are present in the moment with whomever is in front of us – fully engaged, fully available, fully involved. Jesus was and is the perfect example of this: Zacchaeus, the woman at the well, Martha, Mary, His disciples…you and me.
One – singular. Another – someone else.
Love one another.
Build relationships with one another.
Serve one another.
Be hospitable with one another.
Encourage one another.
Accept one another.
Help one another.
Pray for one another.
Jesus frees us to demonstrate love in the moment for whoever is before us. ~ Authentic Relationships, Wayne Jacobsen & Clay Jacobsen
We don’t have to have a plan to conquer an entire city, or even our entire family.
We just love whoever is before us.
Isn’t that exciting?! It’s all about building intimate relationships. It’s about loving people where they are and trusting God to free them, bring them out of their problems, sins, and tumultuous situations.
We can only do that because He first did it for us. We can only serve because He came to serve. We can only befriend because He befriended us. We can only love because He first loved us. We can only forgive because we were first forgiven. See the correlation? Isn’t it awesome?!
You cannot hope to give to others what you have not received from God Himself. One anothering begins on the inside. ~ Authentic Relationships, Wayne Jacobsen & Clay Jacobsen
How about it? Ready to one another?