Hey there my girls,
I felt like writing you a letter today. Sometimes my heart gets so full of all of the changes and transitions, that I just need to put on paper what is going through my head and my heart.
I’ve so enjoyed watching you grow up. And I’m fortunate, because of the 10 year gap between the two of you, I get to experience different stages with you both at the same time. I guess some would say fortunate, others would say crazy. ;) But I choose fortunate. Fortunate that I can be here to pour into your lives all of the things that I want you to have before you have to face this big world all by yourself.
Because you will have to face it soon.
And I want you to be ready – as ready as you can possibly be.
So we talk. We talk about hair and make up. We talk about style and fashion. We talk about homework – how much you hate it, how much you love it, how torturous it is for parents. We talk about what you want to be when you grow up. And boy does that make for interesting conversation. At 6 you want to work at Wal-Mart; at 16 you want to be a nurse. And sometimes in the in-between you want to be everything.
And that’s okay. I want you to know that you can be anything you want to be. I want you to experience life in all of it’s glory – all of it’s beauty – all of it’s tragedy – because it’s there you really learn who you are. I want you to feel the freedom to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to go wherever you want to go. You can do all those things because you are empowered and because you are supported and because you are YOU.
We talk about boys and how many cooties they have and then you turn 15 and boys are cool and cute and dreamy. This Mama Heart can’t quite take the transition, but I know that you are learning to guard your own heart and guard it well. We talk about sex – is it good? is it fun? is it gross? We talk about money – how to manage it, how to budget it, how to spend it, how to save it. We talk about princesses and we talk about jobs and we talk about boo-boos and we talk about heartbreaks. We talk about marriage and we talk about divorce.
And for that, I’m so very thankful. I want to teach you that communication is key in every relationship you will ever have. Communication is key on the job, with your friends, with your siblings, your parents, with your spouse and ultimately with God.
I want to show you that real life isn’t about the best career or the biggest car or the prettiest body. Real life is about relationships – all the relationships you will ever have. Real life is about cultivating and nurturing and sustaining those relationships. Relationships are the real work – they take blood, sweat and tears. Relationships are what will keep you when the jobs are gone, the money’s tight and the bills pile up. Relationships are what will sustain you through all the life changes you will experience.
If I could teach you that one thing – cultivate and nurture all of your relationships – then I feel I’ve been a successful mom. Ultimately your relationship with Jesus is the most important one, for out of that one relationship you will grow, mature, heal and step into the destiny He’s designed for you from the beginning.
Remember that word. Remember it and practice it. Practice it even when people are difficult and you feel like giving up. Don’t stop practicing it. Be a safe person for someone – require that people be safe for you.
Today my heart is so full. I’ve been so very blessed to be your mom. It has been a journey that I wouldn’t trade for anything. I’m your Mom. And I’ll always be here for you – through every good, bad, fun, sad, great, or horrible thing you experience in this life. It’s what God commissioned me to do – be your Mom.
That is the best destiny I could have ever been given.
I love you both.